The Comfy Chair

17.5.2016 | 00:03

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Remember the old Monty Python skit about the Spanish Inquisition?  (“Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition!!”)

If you’re familiar with it, you know that one of the implements of torture being used is the dreaded … comfy chair!!

Well, you’ve probably also heard recently that “sitting is the new smoking,” so maybe those dudes were actually on to something….

And while I could go on at great length about how we spend all day sitting at our desks (although I have a nifty little accessory that turns my “sit-down” desk into a “stand-up” one), and then spending the evening sitting on the couch watching television (I don’t have one of those, although I do watch DVDs and stream video on my laptop), that’s actually not my point today.

No, I actually want to talk about the whole idea of comfort, in particular what we fondly call our “comfort zones.”

END OF COMFORT ZONE written on Directional wooden sign with arrow pointing to the right against green leaves background. Concept image with available copy space


We could call it “playing small,” or “not making waves,” or a few other things.

But you know something?

It doesn’t serve us.

And more importantly, it doesn’t help anyone else….

We might think it serves us to remain quiet and keep the peace during a family argument or public display of rudeness.

But does it?

Are we proud of ourselves when we don’t speak up after a racist, sexist or homophobic joke?

I don’t know about you, but when I’ve kept quiet in situations like that – because I’m uncomfortable rocking the boat, or don’t want to offend a friend or family member – I never really feel good about myself afterward.

So I speak up now – gently, but firmly – and quietly disagree.

I may not change anyone’s mind, but at least I don’t have to feel guilty or ashamed of not doing what’s right.

And even beyond myself, I’m learning that keeping what I know to myself and not sharing it with others, others who might need the sort of information I’m acquiring, is selfish.

I’m not talking about foisting our views on anyone and everyone we meet.

I’m talking about all of the confusion out there about so many things related to health and wellness.

There’s so much conflicting information.

And if some of us can help people sift through all of the contradictory statements, then who are we to keep that to ourselves?

This is really difficult for me, because I’ve always been a “people pleaser.”  I hate to upset people and “stir up trouble.”  (I’ve been accused of that when I’ve spoken my mind, so yes, it’s a reality.)


But sometimes I simply can’t let inaccurate, even dangerous, information go unchallenged.

So I have to step outside my comfort zone….

And Debra and I have both done that in a big way recently:

We posted our first recipe video on YouTube.

We filmed it a week before posting it.  After all, we couldn’t just put up raw footage shot on an iPhone, could we?

Yes, we could.  And we did.

Over a year ago, no less a mentor than Sean Croxton himself  told me during a coaching call that I needed to be doing audio or video – that I “had the personality for it.”

My response?

Disbelief, and these words:  “But I’ve never thought I was attractive enough for video.”

Yep, I said that.

To Sean Croxton….

He (oh so wisely) told me that no one would care what I looked like, but that they would relate to me and my story.

(He’s a smart dude.)

So Debra and I finally – more than a year later!! – drummed up the courage to do this.

We’d had others tell us that our camaraderie and sisterly banter would appeal to viewers and that yes, we should start making videos.

We’re not glamorous.

We’re not perfectly coiffed.

As a matter of fact, we’d just come in from a vigorous walk on a warm and steamy spring day … we were a bit sweaty, a bit disheveled – and hungry.

Ready for out lunchtime smoothies.

So we set up the camera and … made a video.

Here it is:

It was fun to make, and we’re proud of it.

And it took us a week to share it with the world.

Damn, but it can be hard to get out of that comfy chair….

Don’t let me catch you lounging in yours – unless, of course, you’re streaming our video.  But then, you could do that from your stand-up (or even better, treadmill) desk….

happy young family wathching flat tv at modern home indoor


  1. Jace
    May 17, 2016 | 6:05 pm

    Playing small in life sucks. I’m challenging myself to play bigger and bigger as I grow on my journey. I do this by just being me and letting it flow. Cheers

    • daletchworth
      May 17, 2016 | 8:06 pm

      Bigger and WAY less comfortable, Jace. High five!

  2. Andrea Caprio
    May 18, 2016 | 4:38 pm

    Oh this resonates beautifully with me as I also get out of my comfort zone and did that video, and there is so much more to get uncomfortable comfy about. Let’s do it

    • daletchworth
      May 18, 2016 | 8:38 pm

      Way to go, Andrea! Let’s agree to get uncomfortable. A lot. Debra 🙂

  3. Brad
    May 18, 2016 | 5:34 pm

    I recently heard the term funcomfortable. I can’t take credit but I think when we start enjoying the rewards of going outside our comfort zone, we have some real funcomfort!

    Great video and article. I’ll admit, I watched it sitting down. There’s exceptions for everything.

    • daletchworth
      May 18, 2016 | 8:39 pm

      Good term, Brad — I like it! Debra

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