16.4.2016 | 14:13
Have you ever been in the situation where everyone around you is talking about how great something is, and you just don’t like it?
For example, I don’t think “Citizen Kane” is the greatest movie ever made. Frankly, I just didn’t “get it,” and thought it was kind of boring.
And it’s not that I don’t like old movies – I think “Casablanca” is one of the best ever. (And you might not like it at all….)
I love the Beatles, and I enjoy some classic Elvis, but do I think they’re “the best”?
I rather like the Kinks myself.
Joshua Rosenthal, the founder of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, uses the phrase “fitting out.”
Debra and I have been “fitting out” for years – we just didn’t know there was a name for it.
We loved reading when we were kids, and both enjoyed school. And no, we didn’t go to any fancy Montessori or other specialized school – we spent most of our school days in the North Carolina public school system.
We didn’t play with baby dolls, although we did have plenty of Barbie dolls.
However, we didn’t have Barbie marrying Ken and living in her “Dream House” – we gave them all different names, and made up little dramas with our own collection of characters.
Neither of us got the “shoegasm” gene either … if they aren’t comfortable, I’m not interested….
As you know if you’re a regular reader, we moved house about a week ago.
We moved from the mountains back to the Piedmont, that flat, central area of the state that is home to UNC, Duke and NC State University.
Everyone was so envious of our move to the mountains a couple of years ago, telling us how lucky we were. Asheville has great restaurants, beautiful scenery, blah blah blah….
The first summer we were there was fabulous.
We barely had to run the air-conditioning, which is unheard of during a NC summer. We had the windows open nearly every day – it was bliss.
But living in the mountains wasn’t blissful, not for us.
When we both finally admitted – to ourselves and each other – that we weren’t happy, we knew it was time to come home.
We both graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill, and we loved it here as students, and later as adults.
It’s very “walkable,” and the public transit system has been free for several years.
At one point, I had four different library cards for four separate libraries, including the University system.
We’ve been here less than a week, and I think we’ve already been out walking more than we had in the past year in the mountains…. (Our neighborhood was not, shall we say, “pedestrian friendly.”)
Yes, the mountains are exquisitely beautiful to look at.
They are also rather claustrophobia-inducing, if you’re so inclined.
They can make you feel boxed in, trapped.
I nearly cried with relief on moving day, as we drove down out of the mountains, into the foothills, and beyond.
It felt so good to be a “flatlander” again.
Debra and I are so proud that we listened to our own unique needs and made this decision.
FYI, the cats seem happier too: Opal has been more active and engaged than she was in our old home, and Osiris is much more relaxed than he’s been for two years.
And Murphy, who never knew any other house (as far as we know), is as content as can be. She’s enjoying the view from many of the windows, and has been even more affectionate and cuddly than she was before. Which is saying a lot.
So keep in mind that the “conventional wisdom” may not be the “wisest” solution for your unique needs.
Don’t listen to what everyone else says.
Follow Joshua’s advice, and choose to “fit out.”
It’s much more satisfying than conforming and “fitting in” with everyone else….
I’ve come down from the mountain to share that with you. Now it’s time for you to share your favorite ways of “fitting out.”
You’re always welcome to do that here.
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