11.8.2015 | 12:05
A Marvelous Mentorship
As I said in my last post, I am truly grateful to a lot of people.
I’m going to single out Alex Jamieson this time, because my mentorship with her is turning out to be one of the best investments I’ve ever made.
When I first realized I was going to have to say goodbye to my vegan diet, I was really upset. I had thought I had the healthiest, most ethical, most environmentally sustainable diet possible.
I thought it would be hard, and that I would have to choose between my health and my “ethics.”
I’ve discussed in earlier posts how I subsequently discovered that dichotomy isn’t as clear cut as most of us think….
I’ve mentioned other mentors who made recommendations and steered me toward more unbiased resources.
But Alex is different.
Alex has been there.
Alex Jamieson found herself in the same situation as me, only worse: Her public identity was entwined with her veganism.
It wasn’t just health vs. ethics. Her public image was at stake.
Alex weathered the controversy with grace and poise.
She chose herself.
I was initially so upset by the choice I had to make, so agonized by the conflict within that —
I reached out to Alex.
I sent her an email.
She responded with kindness and empathy. And she told me about a mentorship program she was doing.
The program wasn’t just something where you signed up and handed over your money. It was going to be limited to a very small number of people.
There was an application process. An interview.
I poured my heart out in the application. I shared stuff I don’t tell anybody.
I cried during the Skype interview.
But we also connected. Alex felt my passion.
Allow me to pause here for a moment and explain where this passion comes from.
The majority of feedback I received from my earlier blog posts, where I openly and honestly recounted this struggle, has been from women who have gone through the same “dark night of the soul.”
The most common refrain?
“Where were you X years ago when I was going through this same struggle? I thought I was alone.”
That’s what made me cry.
That is why I’m so passionate to have this conversation.
I don’t want anyone to feel alone with something so difficult for them. That breaks my heart.
I think Alex felt that.
And I knew I wanted to work with this woman.
It’s been an amazing ride already. She’s given me some business tips, fitness and self-care ideas…she’s even helped me drill down on my daily habits and really focus, creating a schedule that will better serve my needs, short-term and long-term.
We have one-on-one coaching calls, and there are also group calls, where Alex supports us and we support each other. Same with our Facebook group.
I can’t emphasize enough how important it can be to have mentors, coaches, people who’ve been there.
I have been so very lucky to have some great coaches and mentors. (For a reasonably exhaustive list, check out my previous article.)
I’ve gotten great advice and assistance from all of them. And I am beyond grateful for that.
But Alex is unique. She’s already followed this path I’m currently traveling. So she has a special insight into some of my particular struggles.
She might not be the perfect coach or mentor for you. She’s a perfect fit for me right now.
But I imagine that there is someone out there, to whom you can reach out. Someone who understands your struggles, can relate to your pain, and has been where you are now.
I encourage you to seek out that mentor, that coach.
Although I bet they won’t send you a fun present…. (Thanks, Alex!)